Is there an “Endgame”

A lot of people ask me, whether in person or in comments on Youtube: 

“What should I aim for? What is the goal of game? Is there an ‘endgame’?”

I guess when using language like “the path” and even “game” presupposes that there is a specific, universal destination or goal. Life’s much simpler for us when we have a specific goal to target – a certification, a degree, an income level, a vacation destination, or a specific girl. We can focus our attention on that goal and work towards it, and it’s clear when we achieve it.

Game is both extremely simple at its core, and incredibly convoluted when you’re lost in the woods of interactions and can’t see the forest for the trees. 

In the early stages of game, nervousness and excitement propel you, and because cold approach is so full of novel experiences, the freshness of the entire endeavour serves as fuel to push past the rejections and frustration.

But nobody can persist in something they perceive they’re getting little out of, so even novelty alone isn’t enough to steel your resolve for many months and years if you’re not getting any concrete results out of the process – whether that means LINEs, dates, or hookups. 

Once the initial novelty wears off and revelations such as “Hey I can talk to girls on the street and nothing bad will happen” or “These girls are actually pretty open to talking to me,” routine can begin to set in. You may find yourself repeating conversations, saying the same kind of lines and routines over and over, and failing at the same point in the interaction over and over, and often have no idea what you might be doing wrong. 

Game can get repetitive, which is why it’s so crucial to constantly push yourself to new heights and actively destroy the parts of your interactions which are stalling out. And when you find yourself in this web of monotony and frustration, having the moxie to pull yourself out of a funk is crucial. 

Others find themselves stagnating in a different way – haunting the same tired venues repeatedly, going on dates and having a small army of regs can feel like success – and indeed it is, to a degree. I’ve fallen into the trap of reg collection before, enjoying the comfort of calling over a different, familiar girl every day of the week. This can be great for a while, but like all other things, devolves into stagnation after too long. 

All of this is to say that the goal of game changes as your journey through it evolves. The goal is less of a specific type of girl, sex, relationship, or enlightenment, and more an ability – an ease of mind. At the end of the day, you want to be able to look yourself in the mirror and say “I chose this life.” 

To me, the main goal of game is to live a love life (and life in general) by design. Rather than being dictated by social pressure of standard relationship styles and approved channels of meeting girls (social circle, dating apps, etc), you can set out on your own and speak to literally anyone for any purpose without any expectations. 

Want to call over a petite waif-like girl one night and a thick buxom wench the next? You can do that. Want to move to a new city and find yourself a nice girlfriend on short notice? The power is yours. Interested in delving into the depths of orgies, threesomes, and happening bars? Have at it. Finally decide that one girl is the one for you? Go for it, safe in the knowledge that you actually chose it from a wide variety of options.

Ultimately, when people ask me what the “endgame” is, I tell them exactly this – decide what you want your love life to look like at the moment. Then simply shoot for that and don’t be afraid to shake it up. That said, you can’t make progress without the foundation – massive action. Dabbling in game for a while and thinking you’ve come out the other side with some nice regulars may feel rewarding for a while but in the end, the pain is in the mail. You can’t take your girlfriends to the afterlife, and any hasty retirement from right action will undoubtedly dull your edge and leave you back where you started. This is why I recommend guys game even if they’re happy with their current situation. Girls have a way of sensing when a guy is getting too complacent and off their purpose. They want that untameable mustang, not the kept pony.