It’s abundantly clear to me that the main difference that separates guys with consistent results and those with spotty results is not any inherent personality difference or set of physical traits, but a series of habits. Without a doubt the biggest and most important habit is consistency in taking right action – going out, meeting new women, and moving the interactions with them forward.
This is basically non-negotiable. You can’t hack your way out of right action, or rely on some super-efficiency niche to get around this. At the end of the day, if you’re not getting shitted on by hot girls left and right, persevering through that without being deterred, and grinding, you won’t have the base level of confidence required when that stunner shows up. Abundance and right action work hand-in-hand to give you the fundamental confidence you need to succeed with women, even if those women come to you through other channels besides cold approach.
That said, here is a collection of some minor habits that can help you out along the road – provided you are still hitting that right action the whole time.
When tearing open a condom, don’t separate the torn edge completely from the bulk of the wrapper. Torn edges get you caught, since you’ll often find the big part of the wrapper but not the edge. Pick up the wrapper after you’re done and make sure you don’t leave it if it falls behind your bed.
Don’t perfectly clean your house before dates. Some hairs are good, and you can and should establish from the beginning that you sometimes have people over for “parties”. This will help if and when you end up turning a girl into a longer term reg or girlfriend, as they won’t suddenly notice a hair and flip out on you. Hairs in your bed are the exception, and this is the one area you should make sure to keep the sheets clean and korokoro the hairs up.
Keep some drinks in your fridge always. You never know when you have a girl back and you might need a drink. It’s a lot easier than heading back out to the conbini when a girl is low on time or not super hooked – that one house drink might just save your pull.
Always take some notes in the name field of LINE after exchanging. Ideally, her job (if you know), and the day and place you met her. For example, OL, Shinjuku, Thurs. If you use kanji you can pack more into the limited space. I wouldn’t take too long writing these down as many of your numbers will not be solid anyway, so better to spend most of your time meeting new girls.
Use text replacement in your phone (can be found in the settings section) to create shortcuts for common phrases you want to send. Such things like, 今日会って楽しかった！また今度遊ぼうね (or such basic initial texts) will save you a lot of time and make sure you fire things off quickly and stay on target.
Girls need to be re-seduced every time you meet them. Don’t imagine that you will simply pick up where you left off, or that if you had some epic long, romantic date before that you will be able to insert immediately, or that if you banged her once that you can simply pull her to a hotel right away. Make sure to give her that vibing seduction that made her like you the first time again every subsequent time.
Scout out your logistics. You need to always know where you can pull (love hotel, karaokes, net cafes, rental rooms, public toilets, dark corners of parks, etc). Similarly, you should know a cheap bar or two that isn’t too loud and is hopefully on the way to the logistics you’d like to use. However, if for some reason you don’t know such a place and you find yourself in an interaction you can easily point in basically any direction and pretend you know your destination (“let’s drink this way”). What you don’t want to do is seem uncertain about your destination and stand in front of the girl googling something or fumbling around thinking どうしよう
Don’t get butthurt or agitated in sets with girls. Resist the urge to “show her a lesson” or argue about some philosophical or logical point. Chances are, she won’t ever come over to your side and your “lesson” will be all but ignored. Instead, she’ll just think ‘thank god I didn’t go with THAT guy…’ While it can be good to give girls some pushback and show you’re not afraid to disagree, if an argument is brewing it’s better to not dig in your heels and instead just tell her that her point is interesting, and switch the topic elsewhere. Debate, and you masturbate. Just penetrate.
Wear your contacts and wax in your hair (you know who you are 😉 )
Vary your pings and your stories if you use Instagram. She should see you having a life full of bountiful experiences. Food, exercise, drinks, cafes, adventures, animals. Have a bit of everything.
When choosing a place to live long-term, there are two main strategies. One is to choose a very popular and busy station where you often game (or want to) such as any of the major drinking areas. Examples would be Roppongi, Shibuya, Shinjuku, Ikebukuro. Another is to pick a place thats slightly off the main Yamanote, but still close enough to do some decent dates. Examples are Meguro, Shimokitazawa, Sangenjaya, etc. The first will let you do more SNLs and quick pulls, but the second will be a nice compromise of location and dates without living in the absolute heart of the city.
Have a fast trigger and reaction time. If you find yourself debating whether to approach because you’re not sure if she’s quite cute enough, just go in and make your decision after the open.
Have FUN gaming. You really need to love the process of meeting new people – wherever it may lead. The main thing that separates people who stick around in game and make serious long-term progress and those who fall off are those who can embrace the suck and the shitty times where it seems like every girl doesn’t want to talk, and persevere until you finally find one who is into you – don’t worry, you will.
Always escalate. You simply never know when you will meet the girl again. This doesn’t change whether you think the girl is “not that kind of girl”. You will surprise yourself.
Condoms everywhere. In your wallet, by your bed stand. Always, always have a condom with you. Never know when you will need one.
Be flexible without being spineless. If a certain bounce isn’t working, think about other options. She won’t go into the love hotel? Try a dark alleyway first. No to the Net Cafe? Hit up karaoke. Freeze at your genkan? Is there a park nearby? Resist the urge to give up at what seems like heavy resistance, especially if the girl is worth it.
Have a small bedside lamp or dimmer on your lights. Be able to get your room/escalation area dark.
Talking about sex and laying your intentions completely bare are 下品 and kill the mystery. She should understand from your vibe while still being not 100% sure. Keep her in Schroedinger’s box with your intentions and have her wanting to see what’s behind the next door of her experience with you.
